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Effective Goal-Setting Step-by-Step Most of us have a vague idea of what we’d like to accomplish, b

Most of us have a vague idea of what we’d like to accomplish, but few have true, concrete goals. A goal is analogous to a target. Without a goal, you’re just drifting along hoping for things to improve. With a goal, you have a definite direction and purpose.

Though we’ve all been told how important targets are, few of us have ever been given specific directions regarding how to formulate an effective goal.

Give your goal these characteristics and you’ll be on your way to success:

  1. Acquiring a new car isn’t specific. Acquiring a 2015, silver Honda Civic with the navigation package and luggage rack is specific.

 

  • Be as specific as you need to be, but not more. If your goal is to meet the man of your dreams, does he really have to be over 6 feet tall and have a dimple in his chin? It’s important to have a clear target, but too much specificity limits your options. Stick to the important characteristics.

 

  1. Time-bound. Without a timeline, you might find yourself waiting for a long time because you’ll be unlikely to ever get started. Having an endpoint date creates focus and urgency.

 

  • An effective endpoint date is no more than 12 weeks into the future. If your goal will take longer than that, break it into smaller goals. Anything beyond 12 weeks will cause your focus to wane. It’s far too easy to procrastinate with goals set too far in the future.
  1. If you don’t believe you can achieve your goal, you won’t pursue it. What would be the point? Start with a goal small enough that you believe it can be done within the timeframe you’ve set.

 

  • Do you have the necessary resources and time to reach your goal before the deadline?
  1. If you can’t measure it, how will you know if you’ve achieved it? How will you know if you’re making progress? Goals that deal with money or bodyweight, for example, are easy to quantify. A goal to take a trip to Hawaii is also easy to measure, because you either did it or you didn’t.

 

  • Goals that deal with less quantifiable characteristics, such as money, can be a little more challenging. You might have to develop your own measuring scale. Ensure your goal can be measured before you get started.
  1. Reviewed regularly. One of the most effective ways to prioritize your goals is to review them at least daily. With so many thoughts and ideas flying around in your head, a daily review of your goals will help them to rise above the noise. Take a few minutes each day to review your goals at least once.
    • Take enough time to re-write, read, and visualize your goals.

After you’ve created your goal, make a list of actions that will lead to attaining your goal. Too many of us spend too much time in our head to be successful. Things only change when new actions are taking place. Start at the end and work your way back to the present. What step could you take today toward reaching your goal?

When you’ve completed all of the steps, your goal should be a reality!

Goals are the key to reliable achievement. Ask your successful and unsuccessful friends about their goals compared to their results in life. Those with goals regularly outperform those without. If you don’t have any goals, hurry up and make a few! If your life isn’t fulfilling, a few goals can make the difference.

11 Ways to Live in the Moment

It’s impossible to enjoy life at the highest level without being fully aware of the present moment. Life can only be lived in the present. Often our minds are preoccupied with multiple things, none of which is occurring right now.

Our minds are very active and constantly attempting to break free to occupy themselves with the past, the future, and pure fantasy. While it’s good to prepare for the future and learn from the past, focusing primarily on the present has many benefits.

Try these ways to live in the moment and be present with your life:

 

  1. Avoid worry. Worrying can only happen when you look to the future. Keep your thoughts on your environment and your current activity. You can’t worry if you leave the future alone.

  2. Avoid regret. Regret arrives while thinking about the past. The past is over and no longer exists. You bring your past mistakes to life by thinking about them. Let them go.

  3. Turn off electronic devices. Cell phones, computers, iPods, and gaming systems distract from the present moment. Find your enjoyment in your life rather than in an imaginary world or in frivolous communication.
  4. Avoid multitasking. Try doing one task at a time. Current research is overwhelmingly in favor of single-tasking. You’ll find you perform the task faster and at a higher level. Let multitasking be a thing of the past. Single-tasking is much more conducive to living in the present.

  5. Eliminate unnecessary items. Having too many possessions is more of a burden than an advantage. Owning too many things results in disorder that clutters both your physical environment and your mind. If you don’t need it, consider giving it away or selling it.

  6. When you hold a grudge, the only one suffering is you! Anger is distracting and keeps you from enjoying the current moment.

  7. Go slowly and deliberately. Rushing creates a unique type of anxiety. Give yourself the time you need to enjoy the current activity. Address one task at a time and give it your full attention.

  8. If someone is speaking to you, give them your full attention and participate in the conversation to the best of your ability.
  9. Spend 5 minutes of each hour describing your environment. Take 5 minutes and describe to yourself everything you see, hear, smell, and feel. It’s an easy way to bring your mind back to the present moment and keep it there. There’s no way to compete the exercise without being mindful.

  10. Eat slowly and enjoy your food. By eating slower, you’ll have the chance to enjoy your food more. You’ll also eat less, which is a good thing for many of us. Try eating an entire orange one piece at a time. Go slowly and focus on the flavor of each section.

  11. Under schedule. Too many obligations results in a crowded schedule and time concerns. It’s not easy to stay focused on the current task if you’re worried about being on time for the next one. Leave space between your obligations. Do less and experience more.

Avoid missing out on your life and losing so much time to the past and the future. Living in the moment is a habit and a skill. Indulging in worry and regret are also habits. While it’s not possible to live entirely in the moment, life is more enjoyable and meaningful when your focus is on the present.

Shutting & Opening the door

Shutting & Opening the door

Letting Go of something that has played such an important & influential part in your life is an  amazing experience in ones life. The emotions you feel are confusing at times you are sad to see it go but at the same time excited why? Well when you think about when you are shutting one door that means closure for some not an easy task to an emotional one to do but  remember you are in theory opening another door no door shuts without another one opening. The room may not be the same as the other one but is that not what makes the change exciting?



Why am I blogging about this well this week is one of letting go of SureSearch. This week is my last week playing a part of this company. For those of you who know me and SureSearch you will understand that this is a HUGE step for me to take.

For those who do not know to put it simply this is a Business that I have lived and breathed with my Husband for 5 years. When my first child Kayla was 8 months of age my husband, managing director, father of one daughter turned and said "I need your help" so apprehensively I put my little Kayla who mind you had a hip brace on at the time into care for a couple of days a week to assit with this business I knew nothing about called "SureSearch" This turned into a couple of days, to a full week to then becoming so involved that I knew everything about "SureSearch"



As time passed and went quickly to add it got to a point were Hubbie, MD, Dad done an expectational job to turn this business into one of success now I can proudly say we did it together. There has been awesome highs like obtaining a first major truck equipment, winning our first major contract, employing extra staff and there is some been some lows normal business roller coaster rides. I have special memorable moments within this business being pregnant through this time with my second sitting at my desk and watching the kicks hit the table from my stomach to working right up to the day I was due to be induced it has just been so apart of my life.



During this time I have been so blessed to work with some amazing people that have made my life extra special and even taught me a few things about myself that I did not know. Some have even become family. The journey I have shared with these people has been one I will not forget I work with family, friends and made friends a long the way that is probably why I am so passionate about "SureSearch" is because of the people. Also to Hubbie, MD, and father of my child what a challenge a shout out to those that work with there loved ones it is do able but a challenge that I wish to let go of now.  No more MD just my husband now which is awesome! It has been like planting a seed and Glen and I watering it and watching it grow into something that is still alive and still grows makes you proud it has been like having another child hence why I it is a HUGE thing myself.



SO here it is final week of SureSearch I let you go and now spread my wings you have been my comfort zone, my learning curve  but now I am ready to shut the door and walk into the next room of my life! 



So remember to those that are thinking or about to a shut door it is a roller coaster but the experience is amazing and you will never forget that room that room is just apart of your house it may reopen again it may stay locked. But living in a one bedroom house is not as fun.

 

By Coach Bee

The First Blog

A Fresh Start

So the theme is Friday Fresh for myself and a relationship. A special someone asked me today "can we start over and have a Fresh Start?"  For the sentence to be even said must of taken a toll on that other person and the relationship to get to that point.



When someone says Fresh it means to me clean, new & alive which in return is all positive and exciting for the both parties. "Start" well that can mean so many things to each individual one may think  "I am going to start from now" or the other person could think "I will start that next week" The word start means "to begin or set out, as on a journey or activity"  no where in there does it say "when" hence why it can be such a grey area. A journey or activity why would I or anyone wait to make up the time to start when you have NOW!



This special someone has asked us to have a second chance, an opportunity to join together on a new journey that is going to begin from  when not sure yet but Some people do not even consider jumping on the journey, why?



Belief- They may not believe the other person can start over or even YOU may not believe in yourself to start over

Disappointment- something that no one wants to ever feel so we avoid to feel this way



I would be totally lying if I said I do not feel any of this at the moment I do trust me I feel them inside and out but is it worth loosing that relationship in my life because of two things that will at the end of day reflect on me? No not worth it especially when it is the other person dug deep and was brave enough to ask for the "fresh start" wish I asked for it first HA!



If a relationship which is a connection of two people could be mother & daughter, lovers, bother & sister , two best mates any relationship at all that has lost it's way by getting to a point were you are both unhappy, have anger towards each other, can not see eye to eye, fight all the time or even lost touch with each other why don't you have a "Fresh Start" why don't you be the one to  say it first and say "Can we start over, let's have a fresh start but starting from this minute on" I doubt that the person will say no and if they do well you know were you stand and that other person could be just feeling those two that I mentioned their belief and disappointment but in time they will come around I am sure!



All I can say is the me being the person on the other side being asked I feel privileged and honoured that someone still wants that Fresh Start with me some people can be told "Stop this relationship is over" so I am excited about my Fresh Start with that special someone in my life starting from NOW.



To that person that asked me for a "Fresh Start" thank you for giving me the chance I really look forward to the journey with you

 

Bee Wakelin

Goal Setting – by Damir

Goal SettingToday we are going to talk about Goals:

 
Setting up goals for life is absolutely crucial skill that is underestimated by many people.
 
There is small art in setting up goals and if they are set up wrongly, you won't achieve them.
 
Since you know you Values from yesterday's lesson, setting up goals should be easy job for your.
 
The only thing you need to do is to align you goals with your values. That is it!
 
Your goals will back up your values.
 
How are you saving time here?
 
You have to know what you want in order to achieve it.
 
And that is much easier when you have set up goals.
 
If you don't know what you want then you are running around and wasting time on meaningless actions.
 
Look at it this way, some people plan their vacations longer than they plan their lives.
 
When you set up goals then you are planning your life.
 
Do you know the saying "One hour of planning saves you 10hours of work?"
 

 

 

 

Fresh Start

Fresh Start

So the theme is Friday Fresh for myself and a relationship. A special someone asked me today "can we start over and have a Fresh Start?"  For the sentence to be even said must of taken a toll on that other person and the relationship to get to that point.



When someone says Fresh it means to me clean, new & alive which in return is all positive and exciting for the both parties. "Start" well that can mean so many things to each individual one may think  "I am going to start from now" or the other person could think "I will start that next week" The word start means "to begin or set out, as on a journey or activity"  no where in there does it say "when" hence why it can be such a grey area. A journey or activity why would I or anyone wait to make up the time to start when you have NOW!



This special someone has asked us to have a second chance, an opportunity to join together on a new journey that is going to begin from  when not sure yet but Some people do not even consider jumping on the journey, why?



Belief- They may not believe the other person can start over or even YOU may not believe in yourself to start over

Disappointment- something that no one wants to ever feel so we avoid to feel this way



I would be totally lying if I said I do not feel any of this at the moment I do trust me I feel them inside and out but is it worth loosing that relationship in my life because of two things that will at the end of day reflect on me? No not worth it especially when it is the other person dug deep and was brave enough to ask for the "fresh start" wish I asked for it first HA!



If a relationship which is a connection of two people could be mother & daughter, lovers, bother & sister , two best mates any relationship at all that has lost it's way by getting to a point were you are both unhappy, have anger towards each other, can not see eye to eye, fight all the time or even lost touch with each other why don't you have a "Fresh Start" why don't you be the one to  say it first and say "Can we start over, let's have a fresh start but starting from this minute on" I doubt that the person will say no and if they do well you know were you stand and that other person could be just feeling those two that I mentioned their belief and disappointment but in time they will come around I am sure!



All I can say is the me being the person on the other side being asked I feel privileged and honoured that someone still wants that Fresh Start with me some people can be told "Stop this relationship is over" so I am excited about my Fresh Start with that special someone in my life starting from NOW.



To that person that asked me for a "Fresh Start" thank you for giving me the chance I really look forward to the journey with you

 

Bee Wakelin

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